Things that should not be said to Asexuals.

"Why do you make (insert genital name) jokes if you don't like sex?"

I am asexual, that does not mean I have no sense of humor, sometimes these jokes are funny.

"Don't you care about your partners needs?"

Of course I do! I just think that they should care about my needs as well.

"So you're asexual, like you just don't like dating?"

Really dear? I said aSEXUAL not aROMANTIC, I am still quite happy with romance

"I bet I could fix that ;)"

I don't need fixing

"You just haven't met The One"

Life's not a rom-com, there is no 'One'

"You're being selfish!"

No I'm not, you are

Survey Results (Thus Far)

Responses to the Allosexism and Amatonormativity Survey:

Demographics:

• 44.4% of respondents are asexual
• 22.2% of respondents are gray-asexual
• 5.6% of respondents are demisexual
• 11.1% of respondents are bisexual
• 11.1% of respondents are heterosexual
• 5.6% of respondents are an unlisted orientation

• 55.6% of respondents are aromantic
• 27.8% of respondents are gray-aromantic
• 5.6% of respondents are demiromantic
• 5.6% of respondents are homoromantic
• 5.6% are an unlisted romantic orientation

• 77.8% of respondents had been assigned female at birth
• 28.6% of female-assigned respondents are women and girls
• 14.3% of female-assigned respondents are agender
• 35.7% of female-assigned respondents are genderfluid
• 14.3% of female-assigned respondents are part of an unlisted gender(s)
• 22.2% of respondents had been assigned male at birth
• 50% of male-assigned respondents are women and girls
• 25% of male-assigned respondents are agender
• 25% of male-assigned respondents are men and boys

• 22.2% of respondents are Christian
• 27.8% of respondents are atheists
• 5.6% of respondents are agnostic
• 28.6% of respondents belong to an unlisted religion
• 5.6% of respondents are witches
• 5.6% of respondents are Sikhs
• 13.3% of respondents declined to reply to this question

• 88.9% of respondents are white
• 5.6% of respondents are Polynesian
• 5.6% of respondents are Asian

• 20% of respondents reported coming from an abusive, toxic, or destructive family environment

• 6.7% of respondents reported having been sexually abused or raped. The sexual orientation(s) of said respondents are unknown.

• 13.3% of respondents are upper-middle class
• 53.3% of respondents are middle class
• 13.3% of respondents are lower-middle class
• 20% of respondents are poor

• 6.7% of respondents are out to their families
• 40% of respondents are out to their friends
• 6.7% of respondents reject the idea of the closet
• 13.3% of respondents chose an unlisted option
• 33.3% of respondents declined to answer

• 33.3% of respondents are teenagers
• 33.3% of respondents are in their twenties
• 6.7% of respondents are in their thirties
• 36.7% of respondents declined to answer

Allosexism and Amatonormativity

• 58.3% of respondents on the aromantic spectrum had been told that their romantic orientations don't exist
• 72.3% of respondents  had been told their sexual orientations don't exist
• 29.9% of respondents had been called an allosexist slur

• 66.7% of respondents had been overlooked, erased, or silenced in the queer community

• 33.3% of respondents had been told that they were cold or unloving for being on the asexual spectrum
• 6.7% of respondents had experienced corrective rape

Opinions

• 66.7% of respondents believe acephobia is real
• 66.7% of respondents believe arophobia is real
• 66.7% of respondents believe allosexual/alloromantic privilege is real
• 60% of respondents believe the A in the LGBTQIA+ alphabet should not stand for 'ally'

Note that these statistics only indicate people who had taken the survey after I revised the form.